Hi Reader, Short version: this Thursday at 11am CT, I'm hosting a free training called The Pause Advantage. Click here, and I'll see you then. Add to your calendar here. Here's a story, and sharing why I build this. As a kid I was the rambunctious one. Third boy, class clown, often in trouble for not sitting still. One Christmas I recall I climbed up on the coffee table, pointed a finger in the air like Travolta from Saturday Night Fever, and had every adult in the room laughing. I reveled in...
5 days ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, Over twenty years ago, my youngest son wouldn't sleep. For months, he woke every hour or two. It wore all of us down. One night I was up with him again, exhausted, dreading the morning ahead. He was fussy, squirming, wanting his mom. I could feel myself getting tense just holding him. Then I noticed what my own state was doing to the room. I slowed my breath. I said a quiet prayer and let go of the morning, the lost sleep, the frustration. I just stayed with him. The second I...
11 days ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, Starting this coming Sunday, I'm running a free 5-day challenge I'm calling The Pause Challenge. Here's the big idea: you're carrying at least one decision right now that's costing you more than it really should. Not because it's hard or impossible. Rather, because it's still an open tab in your mind. So... five days, one email per day, and one tiny step each day. Then by Thursday you'll have run the exact process I teach leaders to use under pressure & deadlines, on a real...
13 days ago • 1 min read
Hi Reader. "Whatever harm an enemy may do to an enemy, or a hater to a hater, an ill-directed mind inflicts on oneself a greater harm." That is a quote from the Dhammapada. Words collected from the Buddha's teachings, a couple thousand years old, but still true on this random Tuesday in 2026. Your mind comes first Reader, and it directs & influences everything. Your attitude, your energy, the vibration of your being, the way you show up in a room, the trajectory of your whole life. And the...
19 days ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, I spent decades trying to think my way there. That next book. Searching for the next teacher. The next certification. Another course. I believed consuming more ideas had to come before anything real or valuable could happen in my life. Like, I had to eat all the food in the world before I could know what good food tastes like. So I read. I conceptualized. I chased. I chastised myself, confused myself, over and over and over. And I'll be dead honest with you now... that reflexive...
24 days ago • 1 min read
Hi Reader. Hope this finds you well. A few things from my week... I paused after a lot of bag squats I'm Really Good at Shallow Work Maybe you know the feeling. First, what do I mean by shallow work? The admin tasks. Maybe the low-stakes emails. Or even folding the laundry, doing the dishes, sweeping the kitchen. Vital work sure... but it does not ask my mind to be sharp. It just completes the tasks. I think my deep work is the other stuff. Just slowing down, making time to think. Writing and...
29 days ago • 2 min read
Hello Reader. I want to share something with you a coach probably isn't supposed to say, let alone write. I had a great June. Best month in my business in a while. My weightlifting workouts on track. Walking & biking every day. Sleep has been great. Built a cold plunge for myself. And pushing myself to write more again. Then... this week I sat at my desk and started attacking myself. I felt unimpressed with my work. Anxious about my progress. This ancient, pissy voice running the meeting in...
3 months ago • 1 min read
Observation: Working on yourself is hard work. So I have never felt completely content in my head. Well, at least not 100% all the way. And no matter how much I have learned or accomplished, or how many meaningful great conversations I have had... there is still this pull toward hiding. Isolating. Being quiet. Fading into the background. But here is what I have learned about playing hide & seek with myself: the more I run from those things I am struggling with and the more I cover them up or...
3 months ago • 2 min read
Hi Reader. During the first session with a new client this week, he shared some familiar stress. Busy job, two young kids, no time for yourself, relationships strained. Plus, this low buzz of anxiety that follows you from room to room. He shared something that triggered my memory. He said he couldn't really remember the last time he was fully present with his kids. Not distracted-present. Not phone-in-hand-present. Actually tuned into the kids. Then he said this out-loud. Something I hear in...
4 months ago • 3 min read